I listened to a round-table discussion this week
held by a mix of psychologists, philosophers and pundits. They were arguing amiably
about various esoteric topics, when the psychologist among them said, "The
world is made up of that which objects to our stupid theories.” This literally stopped
me in my tracks, as I realized he was profoundly correct. I spend much of my
life contending with the dissolution of numerous stupid theories of my own, such as the theory that love conquers all, and that my core beliefs would
never change, and that my spouse is responsible for my happiness, and that my
neighborhood would always have a Denny’s. The psychologist went on to explain
that when our stupid theories are demolished by the chaotic forces of the
universe, we end up traumatized to some degree or another and have to re-order
our emotional structure and sometimes our physical lives to adapt to the “new”
reality.
It occurred to me that I could stop harboring
stupid theories if I willed myself to, but the problem is, one does not know
that one’s theory is stupid until it is proven so, usually in a brutal and
unexpected manner. I’ve concluded that the best thing to do is to strengthen
myself: Always expect a body blow to my deepest held myths, and train
emotionally for those blows. Be strong, build resilience, and never get
complacent. There’s constant talk about the importance of strengthening our
core physically, but not so much about strengthening our core emotionally. I’m
in training, and getting ready for the next bout of stupid theory-demolishing
to come.
On a lighter note, I was delighted to receive a
postcard recently from a friend and co-worker who has been in Norway for the
past few weeks. The card features a beautiful room with hand-painted walls
depicting birds, vines, and clouds against a soft blue sky. My friend wrote, “This is the Bird Room of the
Royal Palace. It’s a waiting room—people wait here until their appointment with
the King of Norway.” I was enchanted, and immediately began plotting how I get
could get myself an appointment with the King of Norway. I want to be able to
drop that casually into a conversation: “I’m terribly sorry, I can’t make that
meeting because that’s when I have my appointment with the King of Norway.” “I’m
flying off to meet the King of Norway. Back in a jiff!” Also, I looked him up,
and the King of Norway, Harald V, sounds like someone who would be fun to talk
to. He went to military school, competed on the Olympic sailing team, and
(gasp) married a commoner. If nothing else, I’d get to sit in the splendor of
the Bird Room and revel in the fact that I am important enough to be meeting
the King of Norway. Once I land upon the perfect ruse, I shall announce my
meeting post-haste.
I thought I would post a video of some Norwegian
choir music, but…it’s all just too heavy and ponderous for a sunny Sunday in
July. Maybe I’ll consider it for a cold, gray November day.
--Kristen
McHenry
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