There are a lot of things I wanted to talk about
my trip to Ireland but the memories and thoughts are not coming to me in any cogent,
linear way, but rather in dreamlike shreds and little bits and bites of emotion
that bubble up at unexpected times and in unexpected places. So this post will
be a grab-bag of feelings and thoughts, in no particular order:
Expectations,
Sheckpectations
Because it took me so long in my life to
actually make this journey, I created a great deal of mythology around it: That
this trip would change me in some fundamental way, that I would return wiser,
inspired to write again, spiritually renewed, and somehow magically divested of
all the problems that I had before I left. I fully understand on an
intellectual level how completely delusional this is, but
nonetheless, I had somehow mentally categorized my life into Before Ireland and
After Ireland: After Ireland, I would
know what to do about publishing my novel, and I would be filled with wild
inspiration to write again. After Ireland,
I would be a better, more forgiving person and would have Perspective on this
terrible situation with my family member. After
Ireland, I would be a totally improved person in many ways—how could I not
be? Yes, I know this is an absurdly unrealistic expectation to apply to what is
an ordinary and routine excursion for many people, but I have been so
thoroughly ravaged by the past few years, that these delusions were the only
thing I had to hold on to.
As it turns out, they weren’t all delusions. I
do feel stronger and more confident in myself. I realized that I’m good at
travel. I managed chaos well, I got lost and found my way back, I ventured off
most beaten paths and came out okay, and I do feel that in some fundamental ways,
I have returned to myself. I have a renewed faith in other people, and a
renewed sense of my own strength. But I am not a better person. I’m just the
same person I’ve always been, with all of my disappointing flaws and foibles,
still confused and fearful, still uninspired to write great poetry, and unduly
annoyed by petty, day-to-day grievances. Going elsewhere didn’t change me at
all.
I realized that fundamentally, I am an idealist,
and this causes me great pain and feelings of let-down when my ideals do not
match up with reality. But I have come to accept that this is a part of who I
am, and to just laugh at my own silliness when I come face-to-face with
expectation vs. reality.
Snake
Dreams
A few days after I got back, I had a disturbing
dream about a Druidic snake cult in Ireland. I woke up in the wee hours, very
confused, with racing thoughts about how this made no sense because I was
pretty sure there are no indigenous snakes in Ireland. After a coffee-fueled
internet search, I found a number of links relating to snake myths in Ireland,
aside from the old tales of St. Patrick driving snakes from the land. Despite there being no actual
snakes in Ireland, serpent imagery is all over the place in Irish art, including
the Book of Kells and on a vase I am unduly proud to have found for four Euro
in the window of a charity shop in Limerick. According to internet wisdom,
there was, against all logic, some sort of snake-worshipping Druidic cult in
Ireland at some point, but it’s unclear what happened to them and where they
ended up after Catholicism took over. All of the snake imagery must have gotten
to me, along with the Viking invasion stuff—I’ve also had a lot dreams about
Viking invasions. Oddly, my subconscious seems to be fairly indifferent to the
English. The evils they enacted upon the Irish went more or less ignored by my
fever dreams.
A Mystical
Encounter?
I met a drunk American anesthesiologist in a pub
in Killarney, accompanied by his very sweet wife, a former critical care nurse.
The anesthesiologist had a lot of opinions about my life, the future of health
care, Reno, Nevada, and driving in Ireland. I talked to him for a long time,
and while I didn’t agree with him on everything, I left feeling a smidge more
forgiving about the doctors who told us to give up on my family member. I
understood more where they may have been coming from, given their training,
their experiences, and what they see on a day-to-day basis. I’ve been
struggling to put together my own Advanced Directive since All of This
Happened, and when I flat-out asked this gentlemen what he wanted for his own
end-of-life plan, he said, “I don’t know.” This was not comforting, considering
that he had been a doctor for 35 years.
When I told my very pragmatic, not-at-all-prone-to-the-mystic
sister about this encounter, she posited that it was not an accident.
Jewelry!
Jewelry! Jewelry!
Speaking of my sister, it turns out she is a
genius at jewelry. She knows all about rose gold and sterling and chains and
design and stuff like that. She put the jewelry sales people through the
ringer, helped random customers, and saved me from an unadvisable amber pendant
purchase at an open market. I didn’t really understand her fixation on jewelry until
I walked into a shop and saw...The Necklace. I wasn’t there to buy anything; I
was just along for the ride. But lo and behold, when I saw this necklace, the
heavens opened, angels sang, and I was smacked in the head with a raw, helpless
sense of overwhelming desire. It was a mother-of-pearl pendant with a rose gold
Tree of Life design, and it was completely perfect in every way. I could see
myself wearing it every day: It could be my Signature Piece, and it would define
me as a person and as a woman. It was stunning, and I wanted it with an
irrational urgency. But alas, it was 600 hundred euro, which was
just a bridge too far for me. I don’t think I’ve spent more than thirty bucks
on a piece of jewelry in my life, as I am a cheapo and I have self-esteem
issues.
So, the gorgeous mother-of-pearl necklace is still
hanging there in that shop in Killarney, and in the shadowy fringes of my
dreams. But all was not lost—my sis found me a very lovely rose gold and
sterling silver Tree of Life pendant in the duty-free shop in Shannon, which
was “only” around 200 Euro, and the lady gave me a killer deal on it. So now I
have a very nice “piece”, and I’m inspired to weed out all my crap jewelry and
keep only the few, quality pieces I do have, all of which have been gifts. I’m
damn near half a century old as of this weekend, and it’s time to rid myself of
the junk and set some standards, gosh darn it.
--Kristen
McHenry
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